Parenthood is defined by many as the genesis for the best years of their lives. Hashtags and aphorisms abound on Father’s and Mother’s Day that the day one became a parent is the “best day of their lives.”
To be fair, for many becoming a parent truly is the best day of their lives. A day for love, loyalty, sacrifice, and lifelong selflessness.
For others, it begins an era of self-realization in which the boundaries feel metallic, a permanent stifling. All the previous positive feelings still apply, but they’re wrapped in the metamorphosis of self to servant. A death of self.
Amy Hassinger’s After the Dam explores not only this commonly overlooked contrast, but also the personal paradigmatic elitism all have about their views on the world. All believe their views are right—-justified—-and others are usually wrong somehow. Other views are not bad, per se, but they’re misguided, politely mistaken. Every single one of us does this, and while it is perfectly normal (predictable, probably) it can often lead to severe misunderstanding and disappointment.
And so begins the deterioration of the dam.
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