most importantly love
like it’s the only thing you know how
at the end of the day all this
where you’re sitting
nothing even matters
except love and human connection
who you loved
and how deeply you loved them
how you touched the people around you
and how much you gave them
For more on Kaur’s Milk and Honey poetry collection, published in 2015 by Andrews McMeel, continue.
Kaur’s Milk and Honey is a delight to read for anyone who’s been through trauma. Last I checked, most everyone living has been through the end of a relationship. Consequently, everyone living will likely find at least one nugget of value in Kaur’s book of poems.
The text is broken into four parts: The Hurting, The Loving, The Breaking, and The Healing.
The Hurting alludes to sexual abuse she’s endured in her life.
The Loving, somewhat obviously, goes into relationships based on trust, love, and attraction.
The Breaking is the loss of the aforementioned Loving.
Finally, The Healing is the graceful, albeit painful, journey to hope after grieving.
Personally, I rate the book of poems a 3.5. I found many of them touching, which I appreciated. However, many of the themes came across as trite and somewhat overused (post-The Hurting, for those were raw and unique); The Loving and The Breaking connoted cliche.
Drawings were included in the book as companions to the poems. Illustrated by Kaur herself, they were simple but definitely added a nice touch. To me, the drawings were akin to Shel Silverstein–simple black and white, yet powerful.
I very much wish I would have had this book when I was getting a divorce, even in the year or two afterwards.
“There is a difference,” she writes, “between someone telling you they love you and them actually loving you.” Additionally:
you are in the habit
on people to
make up for what
you think you lack
who tricked you
was meant to complete you
when the most they can do is complement
I could have used those words so much then. I can still use them now.
A quick, touching read. I look forward to more depth and poetic elements in Kaur’s future work.