He Did Me a Favor

Why not?

Tell the student who pretends you’re stupid, unfair, and mean that you’ll help him. Repeat yourself when he refuses you for the third time. Sit with him longer than needed so that he knows you’re serious; when you do walk away it will be his choice, not yours. Remind yourself that this is where grace comes from.

He’s doing you a favor.

Why not?

Accept that not everyone who asks you out on a date is emotionally responsible. Sometimes people just want to know they are attractive. Not everyone will respect your feelings, and some will hurt you. Tell yourself we’re all learning, and this person offered you a chance to see weakness and forgive it.

He did you a favor.

Why not?

Act like someone who ignores his child due to petty circumstances as probably too insecure to be an adequate parent. Pretend he’s doing the best he can, just like you.

He’s doing you a favor.

Why not?

Decide the person who left you while you were married wasn’t truly meant for you and had the foresight to leave you open for new opportunities. Tell yourself he must have known he couldn’t be the man you deserve.

He did you a favor.

Why not?

Accept that God puts people in our lives for lessons, learning, and–sometimes– livid disappointment. We do not get to decide why; we do get to learn and leave it to be summed up as “life.” Decide that it’s OK not to know, it’s OK to let go, and it’s OK to love all of it–even the ugly parts.

He’s always doing you a favor.

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